January/February 2001 - News in Psychic Counseling

 

HOW TO MAKE LOVE

So…  see how you are!  You fell for that cheap advertising trick.  But wait…  I'm not doing a bait and switch thing here.  I really do want to talk about Love.  This is my Valentine's issue.  As a client wrote after one of my newsletters, “I don't always agree with you but man you've got [courage] (sic) to confront the big issues.”

And what's bigger than Love.

We all look for love in a relationship.  That's what Valentines Day is all about.  We want to find our 'soulmate' who will give us love and chocolates.  We spend inordinate time and energy in this singular pursuit sometimes to the expense of everything else in our lives.

We look for love in our work.  We hope to have passion and a deep sense of reward from our work.  Even the book says it, “Do What You Love and the Money Will follow.”  We all want to love our work.

We look for love in our spirituality.  “For the love of God.”  We search for a belief that will embrace us and give us strength and safety.  We want to be connected to the right system and be saved by its love and grace.

But when it's all said and done, why do so few of us really feel love?  Why are so many in unhappy relationships with no love?  Few people I know actually DO love their work.  Fewer still that I know have any real sense of connection to anything spiritual or divine.  There is no love lost in most of these areas of most people's lives.

Perhaps Willie Nelson's song is right.  We're “Looking for love in all the wrong places.”  Maybe it isn't out there at all.  Maybe Love isn't a noun but a verb.  Maybe it's something we ARE not something we GET.

This is no new concept.  Preachers talk about it all the time.   I almost hate to admit they were right.  But what does it mean in real, practical terms that I can relate to.  What is it like Being love.

It's the big aggressive looking guy in the aggressive looking truck who stopped in the middle of the block so I could cross.  Made my day.

It's Iva volunteering to open the library every day so little kids can come read books.

It's me looking over at my election opponent at a Council meeting and seeing, instead of the mean and hateful person I knew, a little hurt boy who just needed a friend.  It was us talking and shaking hands.

Man, this sounds so corny.  But instead of Making Love, Looking for Love, Praying for Love, Acting like Love, it would be better…  and more efficient…  if we just Are Love.  Then whatever we do, say, make, act, work is done in a loving way.

How to get to that place is the issue, of course.  How to sustain that feeling when we are in it.  I don't have an answer!  Perhaps it helps to be conscious of it when we are there so we can remember it later.  Perhaps it's something as simple as practice.  If you felt you were in that space during a situation, go back to it.  If you have a practice that connects you to that place, try doing it more often.  Perhaps it's as simple as what the Tarot teaches: Ask.  If we are conscious of our need and intend on satisfying it, we will be brought to it.  So maybe it's as simple as to just ask to Be love.

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