January 2000 - News in Psychic Counseling

 

SOURCE OF JOY DISCOVERED!
 Film at Eleven!

One of the intriguing (read 'annoying') mysteries of my life, and apparently of many clients, is this illusive thing called JOY.  I have spent much of my life in hot pursuit of it, changing partners, careers, houses and hairstyles, reading books, going to classes, praying to sundry gods and goddesses.  Apparently some random cosmic wheel sometimes turned and I would have a sense of joy for various periods of time, and then it would be gone, leaving me even more frustrated having seen and felt the pot of gold for a bit.

Many of my clients come to me for this same issue, although most would not phrase it as such.  And over the years I have learned much from watching them and peering into their psyches.  I have often felt confused hearing a client's tale of woe with financial problems, relationship issues, health concerns only to find when I went into my imaginary 'workshop' and watched them on a psychic level they seemed full of joy.  Don't they realize?  Is JOY really just ignorance?  If they had any sense, they'd be angry or terrified.  I watch perhaps even more clients who come to me with rewarding careers, healthy relationships, perfect health yet in the 'workshop' I see them as sad, depressed, drained, lacking joy or luster.  In recent weeks I have begun to realize it's not just 'them' but 'me' who lives out this contradiction.  Often I have found my life in turmoil with emotional upsets, lost careers, personal tragedies, yet I had a sense of inner joy.  More times I had the perfect life, the perfect family, a great house and plenty of money yet an inner emptiness with the flame only a pilot light.  What's going on here?  Anyone who has had a psychic reading with me knows that I close my eyes and go into an imaginary room I call the 'workshop' and watch pictures form about a client.  I always caution clients that sometimes a word or phrase may come up in my mind as though printed on a screen.  These tend to be important, dramatic, and VERY reliable.  A few weeks ago as I sat in front of a client in my office and went to the Workshop, suddenly on the screen came this phrase: JOY IS MOVING TOWARD YOUR HEART'S DESIRE.  Not that I had asked.  But I'll take good advice whenever I can get it.  I filed the insight away until after the client's reading, and then I began to ponder and review my life to see if it could be true.  To my great relief...  even joy...  I can say that I agree.

First I had to break it into parts and define the terms.  What is JOY to me?  Inner harmony; wholeness; peace; satisfaction; bliss.  'Moving toward' struck a chord in me too.  It is very different from 'having' a heart's desire.  It has been my experience that once a desire is realized, boredom and ennui begin to set in until another desire is found.  JOY is found in the moving toward...  the striving for something...  not the having.  JOY is really in the tension we create in our lives between what we have and where we are versus what we want in the future.  If we get too stuck in that striving and don't have a sense of forward movement, we can become disillusioned and depressed, and that's when a coach or therapist or other practitioner can help find the next small step to start the movement going again and bring us back to joy.

Finally comes the difficult definition: what is the 'heart's desire?'  How in heck do we find it?  How can we move toward something we don't see or know?  It often seems that the harder we try, the more we grimace and clench our teeth to force out the answer, the further we move from it.

Let me suggest a few ways to discover your heart's desire.

HAVE A PSYCHIC READING.  75% of my clients come with that question although virtually none of them admit to it.  “What is my path?  Why am I here?  What should I be doing with my life?”  These are variations on the same theme.  The psychic process can often cut through the fog and go right to the heart of the matter.  You may not like it.  You may say “Yeah but...  Yeah but...”  But the process will drop a hot potato in your lap and may help dislodge your thinking to find your heart's desire on your own.

GO TO OTHER PRACTITIONERS.  Astrologers do this all day long.  “People with this kind of chart often go into fields like...”  Have a past life reading.  “Just before you were a Princess in Atlantis you were a money-changer in Baghdad.  You should be an accountant.”  Go to a hypnoregressionist.  “When I was three I was frightened by a horse and that's what has kept me from being the veterinarian I should have been.”  Go to a Shaman.  Have them whip it out of you!

TRY FOR THE ECSTATIC EXPERIENCE.  I'm not kidding.  We're one of the few cultures who doesn't use this.  Reaching the ecstatic level can be done by dancing naked around the fire for several days with no sleep, but this has lost its popularity of late.  All cultures have used drugs or hallucinogens of various forms to reach that state, but Nancy Reagan has put a stop to that.  Being tied between poles and whipped silly is entirely too messy.  But people do legally reach that state these days with weekend workshops, silent retreats, fasting, drumming naked in the forest or the desert.  You laugh, and yet I know of many retreat centers who charge beaucoup money for just such an experience, and I know people whose lives have been changed by it.

OR, JUST ASK.  In whatever way you connect to the Divine, God-force, Spirit, Life-Force, just quietly ask that your heart's desire be revealed.  Put yourself in a quiet, reflective mode with intention to hear the answer.  Ask and you will receive.  If the answer does not come immediately, ask that it be revealed within the next day or week, and you may be surprised to find the answer pops into your consciousness driving down the street one day.  Once you find your heart's desire, it is then necessary to MOVE TOWARD IT.

CAUTION: An ancient maxim states: The road is best not taken.  But once started, it must be completed.  Once you truly know what your heart most wants, for you NOT to move toward it can cause grave distress.  Ignorance really is bliss.  We can fumble and stumble in our ignorance, but when we know where we want to go and know we are not going, real stress results.  Depression, anger, addiction.  This is Pandora's Box and if you open it you must be ready to move toward it at some reasonable pace or face ugly consequences.  If you decide to take this journey, you may want to go with an aide.  A coach, therapist, guru, mentor.  You might want to connect with them before you start out.  Happy journey!

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