Winter 2003 - Case Study in Psychic Counseling

 

WHEN TO NOT TAKE THE PSYCHIC'S ADVICE!

Of course we shall assume that the psychic’s advice is always correct and accurate…

But could there be times when it is appropriate to not heed the advice?  After all, you paid for the information.  Why wouldn’t you use it?

Frankly, the first thing to remember is the Psychic is just a real person in disguise!  While I try to get out of my own way in a reading, my experiences and history have to play some role in what I say.  I also have the luxury of sitting in an ivory tower pontificating.  I don’t actually have to ‘live’ your stuff.

Case in point is “J” who came for his first reading on a bit of a lark.  The first image I had is of him in Germany, where he seems unusually comfortable and at home.  I suggest there is a way for him to live and even work there, because the draw for him is so strong.

The news came as a real surprise to him.  It was very accurate.  When he landed in Germany in the army years ago, he cried because he felt at home, and he cried again when he had to leave to return to the States.  He agreed there is nothing he would like better than to find a way to return and work and live there.

But there was a small problem.  He had just fallen in love with a woman here and moved in with her, and she had just started her own business here.  These and other issues were such strong bonds that he doubted he could move to Germany.

I encouraged him to NOT move.  While the psychic information was true…  he did have an unusual pull to be in Germany…  there were other real world issues not taken into consideration by the reading.  A reading may reveal insights and opportunities, but it does not consider all the human conditions and ramifications that change can involve.  That is for the client to do.  And remember…  Timing is everything.  While the insights may be true, the timing may have to wait till another day…  or year…  or lifetime.

The other time you may want to think twice in taking my advice is when your issue hits one of my nerves.  I want to think I am neutral and objective on all issues, but I’m not, frankly.  I have my own history and hot buttons.  Being one of apparently millions of victims of childhood clergy sexual abuse, I have been known to get physically ill during readings that involve this issue.  I go from 0 to 60 in no time!  I see no shade of gray here.  So when I run into the issue, which is more often than anyone ever imagined, I always caution the client that I have now gone out of neutral and into my own emotional space, so they would do well to temper my advice.  I make no pretense at being neutral or even rational in some of these cases.  In one case I even threatened to call the police if the client didn’t.

And alcoholism can often send my emotional self, or subconscious, into alarm mode.  I feel my chest constrict, my breathing gets difficult, and my anxiety level goes off the charts nearly every time I run into an untreated alcoholic.  I frankly over react, and always caution the client of this.  I tend to think no alcohol is good alcohol, which is true for me and my family, but this is not necessarily the best advice for everyone else, so I have to consciously back off and warn the client that I’m not being impartial on the issue and they should use their own judgment about the severity of the issue in their life.

Especially for new clients, I suggest they do nothing after a reading.  Just sit with the information for a few days.  Wait a couple days and then listen to the tape.  After the information has settled down into the subconscious, whatever resurfaces and feels right probably is.  Let it get mixed up with your own history, your feelings, and your dreams and goals.  Then if the insights feel right, go ahead and act on them, because now you’re acting on YOUR advice, not my advice which has my own history and emotions tied up in it.

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